Finding Freedom: Learning How to Rest Inside the Life I Built
Some moments in life make you stop and really ask yourself: am I free, or am I just moving through the motions? That question of finding freedom and understanding my freedom mindset hit me hard recently, and it changed the way I see everything
Hello from Italy (yes – I made it to Europe)🌞
It’s been a few weeks since I’ve popped into your inbox (did you miss me?). I got really sick a few weeks back and then decided to do the damn thing I wanted so badly and book a last-minute Europe trip to refill my soul cup.
I promised myself I wouldn’t think about business the whole time… and for the most part (well, it’s only been a week and a few days), I’ve kept that promise.
But if you know me, you’ll know that even when I’m not working, I’m still thinking or analysing something. Just more slowly, with better coffee.
Today I’m writing from Polignano a Mare, a small coastal town that clings to the cliffs of southern Italy, and I want to tell you what happened yesterday. Read on if you want to know.
I was sitting in a little café with a pistachio cornetto and my book – the first one I’ve opened since I left Perth, but while I was reading, a voice crept in and started whispering thoughts.“You should be out exploring. You should be walking in the old town. You should be doing more.”
Later that day, back in my apartment, curled up in bed with the same book, the voice was back, whispering incessantly again….“You’re in Italy, you’ve paid all this money, and you’re lying in bed reading. You can’t just stay inside. Go to Conversano, find somewhere new to visit.”
The chatter did NOT stop. I caught myself wondering why is it so hard for me to simply be happy doing the thing I actually want to do?
Why can’t I just enjoy the moment without thinking about what I’m not doing? It’s almost like my intuition whispers what I need, and then my logic rushes straight in to build a case against it.
It’s such a strange feeling, to be exactly where you want to be and still feel like you’re missing something.
That is when I started analysing freedom, the life I’ve built, how I can’t just enjoy what I’m doing (this happens a lot) and noticed a massive gap.
Over the past few years, I’ve worked hard to design a life that gives me time, location, creative and financial freedom; yesterday I realised I now need to create that same freedom in my mind.
Because even though I’ve achieved building a business that gives me all the freedom I once craved – to work when I want, where I want, and on what I want – I’m still learning how to feel free within it.
And I think that’s because when you’ve spent years finding safety through structure and control, true freedom can feel strangely unsafe at first. There’s no checklist, no anchor – just you, your intuition, and the moment.
This was my massive revelation yesterday – while I’ve built the external version of freedom, I now need to build internal freedom in my mind and learn how to rest inside it – to slow down without guilt, to let the life I’ve created actually feel safe to sit in and I need to let my body finally catch up.
The lesson I learnt – the hardest part of freedom isn’t creating it; it’s learning how to rest inside it.
It feels really uncomfortable to stop measuring the day by how much you’ve done and start measuring it by how much you’ve actually just been as you want to be.
I share this as maybe that’s the next evolution for so many of us who’ve worked hard to build lives on our own terms – to stop chasing the life we already have and finally learn to simply enjoy it.
I’d love to know where you are on this journey of embodying freedom, not just existing in it.
And if you need a little help with your brand then you can book a Brand Accelerator call with me and we’ll figure out the next steps together.
Speak soon
